Small tools for high-stakes communication.

These tools are designed for parents navigating co-parent communication in high-conflict or high-stakes situations, including contexts where written messages may become part of a formal record.

 

These tools are not about winning arguments, fixing relationships, or saying the perfect thing. They are about staying clear, contained, and in control when messages become permanent records.

 

The tools here are evidence-informed, trauma-aware, and built for real-world use in family systems, co-parenting, and other high-conflict dynamics.

What You’ll Find Here

One-page guides for written communication in high-stakes situations

Clear language frameworks that reduce escalation

Copy-ready examples designed to be brief, factual, and defensible

Tools that can be used independently or together, depending on the moment

Each tool stands on its own. Together, they form a simple system you can return to when emotions are high and clarity matters.

 

When These Tools Are Useful

When a response is required, but engagement feels risky

When messages are emotional, provocative, or looping

When silence is tempting, but not an option

When you want to protect yourself without escalating the situation

 

Access the Tools

All tools are delivered digitally and are available through the Handle This Moment storefront.

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Grounded in family court guidance and evidence-informed approaches to high-conflict communication.